In my various roles as a management consultant, counselor, teacher, friend and father I've been coaching people in one way or another for the past 25 years or so.

But shortly after 9/11, I experienced an overwhelming number of tragedies in my personal life, and everything fell apart.

No, I didn't lose anyone personally in 9/11 - although I am a New Yorker (now living in New Jersey) who grew up a mile from the Trade Center on the Lower East Side of Manhattan.

But after that soul-shaking incident, here's what happened in my personal world in three short and terrible years:

• I lost my father in February 2002
• My brother committed suicide in July 2002
• My older daughter committed suicide in November 2003
• My life partner left me in August 2004
• And my mother died on New Years Day 2005.

I consider myself a fairly resourceful, resilient person.  But it was all too much - too much loss, too much death, too much sorrow.  I was simply overwhelmed, and found myself shutting down inside.

It's not that I didn't try to cope.  I did!  I went to local support groups, saw several counselors, participated in online groups, and read many books about grief and the grieving process.  I also did the program outlined in the widely regarded Grief Recovery Handbook.

But nothing helped.  None of the standard advice was any good.  I wasn't going through any "stages" of grief, and I wasn't recovering from my grief, either.  Rather, I was STUCK in my grief - living life as a ghost of a person.

What I didn't understand back then - and no one explained in all the books, support groups and counseling - is that I was suffering from COMPLICATED grief rather than SIMPLE grief.

Unlike simple grief, complicated grief doesn't get better over time.  It leaves people broken, debilitated, lost.  THAT was the root of my problem.

Finally, doing some research in some obscure corners of the internet far outside the grief recovery community, I found some tools that empowered me to turn my life around.  Doing this "inner work" over the course of about a month, I could feel the weight of my complicated grief dropping off me like a stone. 

I was back to being "myself" - and I was amazed and grateful that it was actually so easy to heal what had become a chronic sickness of my soul.

Because I spent so much time in the company of other grieving people, I knew that many were suffering from complicated grief, just as I had suffered.  Like me, many others were not being well served by the current therapies,  books and grief recovery solutions. So I decided to focus my life's work on delivering the same kind of rapid and effective healing to others in need.

So please understand this:  if you have endured one or more losses - of whatever type - that have left you overwhelmed to the point where you're not getting better over time, you don't have to suffer forever. 

There really is a way for you to heal - rapidly, gently and effectively - so you can get on with your life.

I can't promise that you won't experience pangs of sadness over your losses.  I still miss my beloved daughter, and I always will.  But you can integrate your losses into the fabric of your life, so that you can live life once again without feeling lost and overwhelmed. 

I recovered - and with the help of my unique grief recovery coaching support, my clients do too.  Feel free to read some of their own detailed testimonials HERE.

Finally, if you'd like to speak with me either on the phone or via email, click HERE.

Paul Roberts

181 Howard Blvd.
Suite M-115
Mt. Arlington, NJ 07856